In November of 2010, my close neighbor killed himself. I later learned that he was extremely depressed because his business failed, he was having some family troubles, and soon after he lost all hope for the future. He was a very nice guy who I spoke with almost daily. I suspected he was in pain but I did not know for certain. Since we were only friendly as neighbors I did not want to get to personal. After his death I felt guilty, feeling like I should have reached out to him. He left behind his wife and 3 young children in deep pain and mourning.
When something like this happens it is very easy to judge and then ask, "why would a person do that and not think about his family?" The more difficult thing to do is to put yourself in that persons shoes. To think about what kind of emotional state that person must have been in to even think of such a thing. We have to be careful when passing judgement because life has a way of tearing people down to a point where they feel there is no way out. We may think we are invincible to such thoughts, but one never knows how you would react until the moment when life's troubles arrive at your door.
Today it is not uncommon to hear about a close friend or family member losing their home to foreclosure, or losing their job. We read about major companies going out of business as well as countries like Greece & Ireland seeking emergency financial assistance. These are extremely difficult times we are living in. Many people who were once very stable and sure of themselves and their future no longer have the same optimism. When you give your very best trying to turn things around only to find things remain the same (or have become worse) it can be extremely discouraging. If this happens continually over a period of time it is easy to see how a person could lose all hope.
In the Bible there is a story of Simon (aka Peter), James and John. They know about giving your very best effort having no success at the end of the task. But in reading about their encounter with JESUS, something happens to change their perspective (and ultimately their lives).
"One day as Jesus was standing by the Lake of Gennesaret, the people were crowding around him and listening to the word of God. He saw at the water’s edge two boats, left there by the fishermen, who were washing their nets. He got into one of the boats, the one belonging to Simon, and asked him to put out a little from shore. Then he sat down and taught the people from the boat. When he had finished speaking, he said to Simon, “Put out into deep water, and let down the nets for a catch.” Simon answered, “Master, we’ve worked hard all night and haven’t caught anything. But because you say so, I will let down the nets.” When they had done so, they caught such a large number of fish that their nets began to break. So they signaled their partners in the other boat to come and help them, and they came and filled both boats so full that they began to sink. When Simon Peter saw this, he fell at Jesus’ knees and said, “Go away from me, Lord; I am a sinful man!” For he and all his companions were astonished at the catch of fish they had taken, and so were James and John, the sons of Zebedee, Simon’s partners. Then Jesus said to Simon, “Don’t be afraid; from now on you will fish for people.” So they pulled their boats up on shore, left everything and followed him.
Simon and the guys had been working all night with no success in catching any fish. Surely the must have been exhausted after working so hard. It is especially draining when you have worked so hard at something without accomplishing the goal. The scripture says they were washing their nets, so we know they had given up and were finished for the night. When JESUS told Simon to go out into the deep and drop their nets again, we can feel the frustration in Simon's response. However because the direction was coming from JESUS he decided to give it another try. The result was catching so many fish the nets broke and after filling the boats with fish they began to sink.
When I was growing up my father would always say, "You never know what good thing is just around the corner. That's why when times get tough you have to keep going forward until you get to the corner. Once you turn the corner in life, usually it means you will never again have to face what you left behind." After Simon, James, and John had this great encounter with JESUS, their lives were never the same.
When we feel like things are completely hopeless, this is the moment we must put rely in GOD. We cannot give up because we don't know what good thing is just around the corner. From my own personal experience I know this is easier said than done. When we are frustrated we have to stop everything and wait on GOD for direction. HE loves us and wants the best for us just as any good father would want the best for his children.
Suicide is never the answer. Suicide is the devil's way of keeping you from the very good thing that GOD has waiting for you just around the corner. With suicide there is no chance for redemption (once the act is done there is no turning back). However if you keep moving forward you will be amazed at how GOD can turn things around for you. Believe in yourself that you can and will make it. Trust that GOD will give you the strength, courage, and direction you need to move forward and overcome your circumstances. If you feel completely overwhelmed by the problems in your life, please reach out for help. Talk to a close family member or friend. If you do not have anyone close to talk to reach out to your local church. There are also some excellent community organizations that may also be of great help to you. But whatever you do please do not entertain the thought of killing yourself. GOD masterfully created someone great when HE created you! HE placed unique gifts, abilities, talents, and knowledge inside of you that is of great benefit to the world. Your presence on this earth is need! Life will not be the same without you! Forget what people might say about you and focus on what GOD says about you. Even if people hate you, know that GOD loves you. In HIS eyes you are nothing short of "awesome"!
I pray these words have been a blessing for you as they are for me (bringing us in closer relationship with our FATHER). Please feel welcome to reply and share your thoughts by posting them here or privately at email@example.com. If this message has touched your heart and you do not know JESUS CHRIST as your Lord & Savior but want HIM in your life you can accept HIM right now wherever you are. Pray this prayer out loud, "Dear GOD, I ask forgiveness for all of my sins. I believe that JESUS CHRIST is your son. I believe that JESUS suffered and died on the cross, was buried, and was resurrected for me. I accept JESUS as my Lord & Savior. Come now and live in my heart. I accept you as head of my life. In the name of JESUS I thank you, Amen."
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